Attachment style test
A non-diagnostic test of your attachment style (anxiety and avoidance) to help you understand yourself in relationships. If you are not with a partner right now, think of your most recent relationship, or answer based on how you usually are in close relationships.
About 6 min · 28 questions · For self-reflection, not diagnosis · Results stay in your browser
If my partner is even a little slow to text back, I worry something’s wrong between us.
Before You Start
How the attachment style test sorts results into four styles from two scores, anxiety and avoidance, and how to read scores near the 50 midline.
Answer Honestly, Read Carefully
Think of how you actually tend to react with people close to you, not how you wish you did. The result is not a label that defines you but a starting point for noticing the moments when you start to feel unsettled.
Limits
mind.io wrote these statements, so they are not validated like research attachment scales, and recent events can shift your scores a lot. If a relationship involves violence or deep hurt, professional help comes first.
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What your result shows
- Two 0–100 scores: anxiety (how much you worry about the relationship wobbling) and avoidance (how uneasy closeness makes you).
- Whether each score is above 50 places the result in one of four styles: secure, anxious, avoidant or fearful-avoidant.
- The “texture of your scores” reading changes with how far each score sits from 50, and if an axis is within 10 points of 50 the page also names the neighboring style across that line.
- Then come the signs that you are being shaken, love and family, things to say in a conflict, and practical tips.
Sample result preview
An illustrative example, not real answers. The numbers are ones the result page’s scoring can actually produce.
Anxious
An example where the avoidance score sits near the 50 line, so the fearful-avoidant side is worth a look too.
- Anxiety: 64 · Somewhat high
- Avoidance: 46 · Near the midline
Anxiety at 64 is 14 points over the line, “Somewhat high”, which makes this an anxious result. Avoidance at 46 is only 4 points under it, so fearful-avoidant patterns may show up in some situations too.
Who this test suits
- Anyone whose relationships keep running into the same fight about texting, time or space.
- Anyone who wants to understand their reactions after a breakup or before a new relationship.
- Couples who want to set their results side by side and talk them through.
When another test fits better
- Love Languages →If you care more about how love is given and received than about conflict patterns.
- Self-esteem test →If your relationship worries seem tangled up with how you see yourself.
- Big Five →If you want to see your personality beyond relationships as well.
How to read your results
How It Works
You answer 28 statements about close relationships, from “Strongly disagree” to “Strongly agree.” Half ask about worrying that the relationship will wobble (anxiety) and half about discomfort with getting close to or relying on someone (avoidance); on each axis, five statements are worded the other way around and scored in reverse.
Each axis is averaged and converted to a 0–100 score, with 50 as the midline. If only anxiety is above 50, the result is anxious; if only avoidance is, avoidant; if both are, fearful-avoidant; and if neither is, secure. A score of exactly 50 does not count as above the line.
Score Interpretation
The style name only tells you whether each score is above 50. Two anxious results can differ a lot: anxiety at 86 means one late text can throw off your whole day, while 64 means worry rises mainly when things between you feel uncertain. “The texture of your scores” on the result page spells out that difference with labels such as “Clearly high” and “Somewhat high.”
A score of 40–60 on either axis is “Near the midline,” so the result page also shows the style you would get if that axis crossed to the other side of 50. Between 45 and 55 especially, a few different answers can change your style. A high score does not mean something is wrong with your relationships; read it with the moments in mind when worry or pulling away kicks in first.
Guides to read alongside
- Attachment styles: how to read the result without overgeneralizingYour attachment result is not a label. Learn to read your anxiety and avoidance scores, why they shift across relationships, and which misreadings to avoid.
- Attachment style test accuracy: what research says and why your result changesA different attachment style on a retest? What research says about attachment questionnaires, why the four styles are cut points, and how to read your result.
- Becoming more securely attached: how insecure attachment can changeCan insecure attachment change? What research shows about attachment over time, the experiences that help anxious and avoidant people, and everyday practices.
Frequently asked questions
What does the attachment style test measure?
It measures two things in close relationships: how much you worry about being let down or left (anxiety) and how uncomfortable leaning on others feels (avoidance). The mix of the two points to the nearest style: secure, anxious, avoidant or fearful-avoidant.
Is the attachment quiz free, and how long is it?
It is a free, 28-question quiz that takes about 6 minutes. There is no login, and the result shows how your style tends to play out in dating and what you might say in a conflict.
Can I take it if I am single?
Yes. If you are not dating right now, answer with a past relationship or someone you care about closely in mind, such as family or a close friend. Remember which relationship you pictured so a later retake compares like with like.
Is my attachment style fixed for life?
Attachment patterns are shaped by early experience, but research suggests they can shift with later relationships and circumstances. Early dating or the weeks after a breakup can push the anxiety score above your usual level. Read the result as a current tendency, not a fixed label.
Should I show my result to my partner?
You can send it with a share link, and whoever opens it sees the same result. It works best as a way to talk about how you each react, not as a verdict on either of you. If your partner takes it too, the attachment pair pages describe how your two styles interact.
What is the fearful-avoidant style?
It is the style you get when both the anxiety and the avoidance scores are above 50. The wish to get close and the urge to pull back so as not to get hurt rise together, so moving toward someone and then keeping a distance can alternate. The name sounds heavy, but it is not a verdict that something is wrong; start with the conflict phrases on the result page.